What the heck is "Love Fat"?

I'm writing this post to honor one of my long time class participants who fell in love about seven months ago and happily admits she has experienced the "Love Fat" phenomenon. In her bliss, she has enjoyed food, wine and lying about with her new love and has put on a few pounds. I must give her credit for the love fat term though. But don't you all know what she's talking about?
When we're on the prowl, on the pull, trying to meet someone, we try to be at our fighting weight. Lean, mean and ready to pounce. But when we finally meet that person who engages us and stops us from looking around anymore, we figuratively and literally loosen our belts and sit back and enjoy. Afterall, it's not too often in life that two people's worlds collide to create a space in time filled with peace and contentment so why not enjoy right?
Right, but not for too long. In my opinion complacency breeds apathy. So while it's good to let go and indulge for a while, there's also a time to step back into real life and realize the success of a relationship is often defined by how well we honor ourselves and take care of ourselves.
Letting go for a while vs. letting go out of oneself is very different. All too often I meet clients who have found the love of their lives and have completely lost themselves redefining their lifestyles and life patterns to accommodate another person.
And this type of behaviour over the long term is a recipe for disaster. Afterall, didn't that special person fall for the person he or she met? Keeping oneself intact and making time for ourselves is ultimately one of the necessary things for a successful relationship. So while love fat is totally great for a while, don't let it become love rolls. Falling in love is a gift. But as you fall for someone else, don't forget about all the things you do to love yourself. Don't let yourself go both in spirit and in health.
Just because your partner loves to drink every night or indulge in high fat yummy food doesn't mean you need to. It's not his or her responsibility to eat the way you want to eat.
So what am I trying to say here? Give yourself time to enjoy and experience the richness of falling in love. Let yourself pack on a few pounds in the process. But for goodness sakes, don't let this period of indulgence become your new lifestyle as a couple. For the sake of your relationship!
Jane
P.S. Sometimes I'm full of shit so take what you may from my ramblings as above
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